Dating

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It hurts when you have someone in your heart but you can’t have them in your arms. 

Status: good. really good. Attempting to traverse the month of January without consuming any alcohol. No more alcohol when I’m out-and-about on Saturday night – my one night out for the week. It’s been at least 10 years since I had a hangover free Sunday, and it felt good. It also felt good to head into the week without dragging my feet.

Did I do any writing yesterday? Nope. Didn’t even do any journaling. In the past I’ve blamed this lack of productivity on the post weekend festivities, but I can see that might not actually be the case. I’m thinking that this is more of a discipline issue. If I can carve out time from my day to go to the gym, then I can set aside some time to write. Need to re-think my approach on this front.

I was supposed to have a date over the weekend. We agreed to meet on Sunday for coffee. I was ready a little early, so texted to let her know that I was going to the café now and that I’d see her shortly. The response was an apology, which I appreciated, but she had forgotten about the date and asked if we could push it back by 2 hours. I was already near the café by then, so I declined, making up an excuse about a prior commitment. Her response was that I should have confirmed earlier in the day, in other words I should have reminded her about the date. I agreed that next time I’ll do that, and then said I’ll be in touch to reschedule.

I have no intention of doing that.

If you don’t care about making a good first impression, then you’re sending the message that you don’t care about me or my time. And if you need me to remind you to do things, then you’re not responsible or accountable for your behaviour. I think that’s all I really need to know about this person. I don’t need to invite that kind of treatment into my life.

Nikon D3400
1/100 sec
f/5.6
24mm
ISO 100

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Procrastination

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While we are postponing, life speeds by.

Procrastination as a form of self-flagellation, or at least that’s how I do it. From a very achievable list of tasks (priorities) for the week, I’m under achieving. Writing being at the top of the list. Picking up my thoughts from yesterday, if I’m not really interested in the writing process, and I’m obviously not getting to it by allowing myself to be distracted, then I need to let it go and move onto The Next Thing. I’m just wasting my time daydreaming about and then using it as a weapon against myself when I procrastinate.

Enough of that. Rubber meet road.

Regarding The Next Thing – second interview yesterday and they’re interested. They were projecting their intentions during the interview; I don’t think I’m misreading the situation, however I’ll find out next week and then we can start formalising/agreeing the details. So, without starting the process of counting chickens and based upon the outcome of next week I’m going to do one of two things: take the opportunity (provided we can agree on terms), or I’m going to head East……….

Nikon D3400
1/50 sec
f/5.6
26mm
ISO 800

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Visions of the Future

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Sometimes my vision becomes blurred and I can’t see the future anymore. In times like this, I seek clarity by taking myself out of the picture for a while.

Status: I can see the future, but I don’t like it much. I have an interview next week for a position I can probably get. I also have my network which I can leverage for available opportunities, and I’ve been procrastinating about doing that. If I’m being honest with myself, I don’t want to go back to Finance, I’d prefer to do something else.

The problem is it’s going to take me a while to gain traction on The Next Thing, and I think it’s a practical choice to bridge the gap with gainful employment in the Finance field while that happens, and then transition over to The Next Thing when I’m comfortable that it can comfortably support me.

I know that’s the right call, but I’m still not happy about it. Suspect that I’ll have to do the usual and white knuckle it in the short term to get what I want in the long term. I’ve had plenty of practice doing this, so maybe it’s best to just pull the trigger and get on with it………….

Nikon D3400
1/100 sec
f/5.6
18mm
ISO 1600

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The Student

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You can ask the universe for all the signs you want, but ultimately, we see what we want to see when we’re ready to see it.

A wider angle on this photo would have been better, cutting out the buses diminishes the photo somewhat, in my opinion. A photographer I’ve been following said that he takes a wider photo – more than he needs – in order to have the flexibility to crop and/or straighten it later without losing any of the important parts of the composition. Lesson learned, will incorporate that into the next set of photographs I take.

So, I’ve learned this lesson but are there others sitting in front of me that I’m ready to see?

Nikon D3400
1/100 sec
f/16
52mm
ISO 100

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Patterns

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“The way is long if one follows precepts, but short… if one follows patterns.” – Seneca

Status: struggling to get on with it. Distracting myself with busy work while not getting on with the important things. Procrastination as a form of self-flagellation.

Is this pattern working for me?

Nikon D3400
1/60 sec
f/5.6
18mm
ISO 400

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