Letters to JZ – Part 27: Pura Vida

From: RR
Sent: October-07-13 1:58 PM
To: JZ
Subject: Pura Vida

Hi sweetheart,

“It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique.” –  Conan O’Brien.

I always sleep so well on a Friday night, but Sunday night? Not so much. I suspect that your good company has a little bit to do with that. When you leave on a Friday evening, I’m always in this really mixed mood of being sad to see you go, but sooooo happy to have spent time with someone I care about very deeply. I think the contentment of being with someone as wonderful as you blankets me in a warm embrace so I am able to completely relax and rest properly. Thanks for that 🙂

So, further exploring of Chapters over the weekend yielded the above quote. I was going to save it for one of your cards, but I liked it so much I thought I’d share it with you now.

I think I am going to let you pick all the movies we see from now on. I saw Runner Runner over the weekend because I knew you weren’t interested. Guess what? It was total crap – I didn’t like it and I’m pretty sure you would have hated it (although, Ben Affleck was quite good in it). You’ve chosen movies that I wouldn’t have gone to see on my own and I have enjoyed every one. I think this is one more thing to adore about you 🙂

And, this song came up in a random search on YouTube. Would you believe that she is only 16?

While I was updating my blog I came across the following article on rethinking the single life. While I don’t agree with all of it, I do like the writer’s perspective and in particular her closing sentence/statement:

“But most importantly—and I do hope this is the lesson that I can impart—I know, deep in my heart, that it is a truth universally acknowledged that we are all worthy of love, trust, companionship, acceptance, and kindness…whomever we receive it from.” – Lucia Lorenzi

I think that’s a pretty powerful message about having self-worth. Ultimately Lucia has also articulated exactly what I want to give someone while in a relationship – I originally wrote this as, “what I want in a relationship”, but I think it is better to give these things to someone special and then trust that they will reciprocate.

I wish I could write as well as that, and maybe I will one day. I just need to keep on writing and practicing. Anyway, here’s the link to the full article:


Have a great day, my gorgeous sweetheart 🙂

Hugs, mango kisses and sunshine affection, RR.



From: JZ
Sent: October-08-13 4:45 PM
To: RR
Subject: Re: Pura Vida

Hi handsome baby 🙂

I really like the quote you sent me. Actually I like all tue quotes you wrote on the cards, they are so thoughtful and very very true. Thank you for all the inspiring quotes.  And the Conan O’Brien quotes coincides with what I always believe in. I think we are all flawed in our own ways, but that’s what makes each person unique and special from our experience. Also, accepting oneself is very important for emotional wellbeing 🙂 its what I am working hard towards hehe

I always sleep so so well on Friday nights too, and pretty good on Saturdays. I just never sleep well on Sundays because somehow I think Monday is the worst of the week! But I always look forward to Fridays because we get to continue out usual routine and spent quality time together. I am so grateful that I met you, and thank you for being who you are 🙂

Hahaha I usually check reviews before watching any movie. Apparently the imdb site I always check beforehand is quite accurate. The trailer for runner runner is actually quite good but I passed because the rating is only 5/10.  Ben affleck is a very good actor actually. The Town was so good. I used to watch this tv series from the 80s with Ben affleck in it. It’s called The Voyage of the MiMi. It’s about him as a kid spending the summer with his grandfather in his boat and they set off to study baleno whales. Anyways, I started to like Ben affleck when I was a little girl. Too had not all of his movies ate great. But I will choose movies from now on lol I ll try to ask you for your option but I will have the final say lol

Somehow I couldn’t open the YouTube link you sent me on my phone, can you tell me the name of the singer and the song? I bet you have great taste in songs 🙂

I haven’t read the full Lucia Lorenzi article but I already agree with what you told me about it. I think we all deserve love and affection 🙂 there are a lot of people that wants to receive love before they can give that to others. But you are right, we will have to learn to give first and have trust in the person that we are giving that affection and love to 🙂 I love discussing these with you!! Let’s talk about it more in person an I will read the article tonight. Thanks got sharing your thoughts with me 🙂

Have a wonderful day hunny bunny baby 🙂



Sent from my iPhone


From: RR
Sent: October-09-13 3:40 PM
To: JZ
Subject: RE: Pura Vida

Hi baby,

So, first things first, I was joking on the text message yesterday about me crying over you sending me an email. ;p I think you knew that, though.

And, here’s the link to the song on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlcIKh6sBtc The name of the artist is Lorde and the name of the song is Royals.

Thanks for the compliment – it makes me happy to see you happy :). I always look forward to seeing your happy face on Fridays as well :).

Speaking of which, would you like to watch Don Jon on Friday? Beyond that there isn’t much else I’m all that interested in seeing, but I will happily follow you like a lost puppy dog if you’d like to see something in particular, my sweet movie picker ;p There is a movie called The Counselor which is starting in the next few weeks – I’m game to see it, let me know what you think.

That’s one of the things I really like about you, and I could see it in you from the first day we met; personal development is important to you, in particular working on the things which are a bit underdeveloped due to past experiences. And, you’re right, accepting oneself is sooo important and is necessary to be able to love someone and in turn be loved. I mean, if I don’t accept myself (or respect myself) as I am, how can I expect others to accept me? It’s taken me a really long time to learn that lesson – and I still struggle with it from time to time.

So, yes I enjoy talking about this kind of stuff with you as well, and we can talk about it some more on Friday. For me, communication is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship, so I’m always up for talking about these types of things or anything you have on your mind.

Have a great day, gorgeous darling 🙂 I’m sending you lots of warm thoughts and affection 🙂




From: JZ
Sent: October-09-13 4:33 PM
To: RR
Subject: Re: Pura Vida

Hi sweet cheeks,

I hope you are doing well 🙂 the weather is so nice today! Oh and of course I know you didn’t cry reading my email lol I think you are the tougher one in the relationship 🙂

Oh I heard of this song, it’s pretty good:) its actually so nice to be talented! When I have time, I will learn a new musical instrument too.

I am game for watching don Jon, let me know what theatre you want to see it in. Imdb has show times but it’s not always accurate. the counselor looks good! I want to see that too 🙂 see, you do have food taste in movies.

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me honey, I think you are great the way you are 🙂 have I told you that you are one of the nicest person I have met? You are have a great heart, smart and very down to earth. This is why you deserve to be treated with respect and love 🙂

I hope you have a great day and I can’t wait to see you in two more days 🙂 lots of hugs and kisses coming your way!!



Sent from my iPhone


From: RR
Sent: October-09-13 9:26 PM
To: JZ
Subject: RE: Pura Vida

Hi gorgeous,

Lol – I think you’re also pretty tough J. As far as me being the tougher one, mmmm, maybe. I can be tough at times, other times it feels like I have shattered glass inside of me. I certainly thought YOU were the tougher one :).

Thanks for responding right away, and thanks for the compliments. You make it very easy for me to just be me, and I never feel like I have to be someone else around you. It’s a very warm, comfortable feeling :).

Don Jon is playing at 3:35 and 4:55 at the Scotiabank Theatre, so let me know which one suits you best and we can meet at the theatre.

I’m looking forward to seeing you toooooooooo, and you give GREAT hugs and kisses! You really spoil me :).

Have a great evening, my darling!





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