It can be hard to tell if you’re headed in the right direction.
How do you measure happiness? How do you measure internal fulfilment? How do you know if you’re really becoming the Man of YOUR dreams or just pretending to for the sake of attracting women?
Aside from measuring the levels of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin in your brain, it can be hard to tell.
So, to make it simpler and easier than having to get your brain fluid sucked out through a tiny hole in the back of your skull, I’ve put together a list of the 45 most common traits that guys who’ve ‘made the leap’ report back.
Which ones do you have?
1. You stop listening to rules and start trusting your intuition
2. You still feel ok, even when she says no
3. Spending time alone is more enjoyable than hanging out with other people*
4. Shutting down is scarier than opening up
5. Doing what’s right is more important than doing what’s easy
6. You stop focussing on what other people did wrong and start focussing on what you could have done differently
7. You connect deeper with people you’ve just met than people who you thought were your friends for years
8. Doing the same thing over and over again is far scarier than trying something new
9. You follow your fear rather than running from it
10. Meditation becomes an enjoyable activity rather than a boring chore
11. You stop saying ‘I don’t want…’ and start saying ‘I want…’
12. You start to see just how boring, needy, and dependent most people really are
13. You feel empathy rather than pain, when you get a negative response
14. You start to appreciate random things like the colour blue
15. Solutions that are obvious and simple to you, come across as deep and profound to other people
16. You can understand what’s someone’s really trying to communicate, without being able to understand what they’re saying
17. The thought of creating a life where you have to rely on anyone else makes you violently ill
18. You find the lesson in every experience
19. You accidentally seduce a woman whilst buying milk (or any other routine activity)
20. Admitting you’re wrong is easier than pretending to be right
21. Everyone accuses you of being a flirt, even when you’re not trying to
22. Her friends approve of you rather than trying to get in your way
23. You exercise and eat well for enjoyment rather than out of necessity
24. People call you weird and you just don’t care because you’re having too much fun to care
25. People who’ve known you for years stop wanting to hang out with you
26. You value your own opinion more than you value the opinion of others
27. People who had no desire to hang out with you in the past start to want to hang out with you
28. You start to smile and laugh for no apparent reason
29. Women are interested in you, despite what you say and do, not because of it
30. People are amazed when they hear what you do on the weekend
31. You laugh at your own jokes, even when no-one else gets them
32. Selfishness becomes your default state
33. You stop expecting the world to change
34. You trust and mistrust people, regardless of what they say and do
35. Process becomes more important and enjoyable than outcome
36. You look back on a bucket list you wrote 2 years ago and realise that everything on there is either completely unimportant or you’ve already done it without planning to
37. Tension is far more enjoyable than safety
38. More often than not, you go to bed at night and think to yourself ‘That was a good day…’
39. More often than not, you wake up in the morning excited, wondering what the world has in store for you today
40. You look back at how far you’ve come in the last 2 weeks and can’t believe it
41. Other people tend to break eye contact first
42. You realise that beauty runs far deeper than great legs and a nice pair of tits
43. You feel in control of your life, regardless of the outcome
44. You realise just how simple this whole thing really is…
45. You don’t need this list to tell you that you’re on the right track because everything feels amazing
That’s it. That’s everything I could come up with whilst sitting in the sun on my back porch, eating half a watermelon.
*Don’t confuse this for ‘spending time alone is less painful than hanging out with other people’. If you’re spending time alone because it’s less frustrating, painful and scary than having to face the possibility of getting something wrong, then you’re definitely not ‘doing it right’.